"If you lie down with dogs you'll get up with fleas!"
One of the greatest expressions that have ever graced my ears! I couldn’t agree more, “If you lie down with dogs, you will wake up with fleas.”
*Lie Down-Not necessarily sleeping with, but also investing your time and energy into this person.
*Dogs- No good men, ain’t bout nothing women, irresponsible, selfish, ego-driven… click here for more examples.
*Wake up- To become physically and mentally alert to/ aware of…
*Fleas- Unwanted drama (what drama is wanted?), displeasing/ disturbing/ devastating emotions, or undesirable physical changes i.e. STIs/ STDs
On some conscious level we are all aware of the lesson behind this expression yet often we silence our logic and decide to act otherwise. Knowingly, opting to associate and interact with dogs is straight foolish!
We know this, yet there is a little voice of foolery in our minds (often confused with our heart) that is encouraging us to give them a chance… this could different… you can change them… it’s not that serious you are just friends…So we take a chance on them, then turn around and wonder why we now have fleas. As the definition states I am not specifically talking about STD’s, I mean we wonder why he is acting this way. What’s up with all of the drama? Why am I feeling so low? Confused?
Often we don’t recognize the dog beneath the sheep clothing and “lie down” unfortunately to wake up to some bull… Lesson learned.
I don’t want to limit this expression to romantic relationships; one could easily associate it with casual friendships. Those friends who choose to be involved in destructive activities, looks to attract drama, and any reason to douse an altercation with gasoline will suck you into their cycle of destruction.
Cut them off… You don’t need dogs in your life. Do something magnificent in your life and cut loose the people you know aren’t about shyt. I know I know... some dogs are so entertaining… they always answer when you’re up at 3am lonely as hell… they aren’t “bad” all the time… oh and you’ve known them forever so it would be janky if you just cut them loose like that. I know! I know!
Now pause for a second and quit making excuses- take a chance and do something for YOU.
Create a HEALTHY distance from people who are emotionally, spiritually, socially, and physically draining you, and work on strengthening the bonds with people who are emotionally, spiritually, socially, and physically fulfilling you.
This expression is definitely golden and should echo on for generations to come.
What really concerns me is do we really have to learn the hard way in order to truly learn this lesson?