Rain...Rain... Go Away...

One day it started raining, and it didn't quit for four months.

We been through every kind of rain there is.

Little bitty stingin' rain... and big ol' fat rain.

Rain that flew in sideways.

And sometimes rain even seemed to come straight up from underneath. -Forest Gump

Rain and storms are going to come in life, and if you are not anchored you and the things you care for may be swept up in the turmoiltuous weather.

If you feel as though the clouds are turning grey and you can "smell" the rain coming (LOL you know how you can smell the rain in the air?!... maybe that's just a southern thing *shrug*) you are at an advantage because you can prepare for the worse, don't turn a blind eye to the signs because you are in denial or believe you do not have the "energy" to persevere through what is coming. Instead, lower your anchor, wherever and whatever it may be anchor yourself in what will keep you positive, steady, and motivated to get through it all.

Most of us don't see it coming, one moment it is beautiful and sunny and the next moment there are scattered thunder storms and tornado warnings. Panic sets in because we do not understand... everything seemed fine... where is all of this coming from? Confusion flutters our hearts and minds as we seek understanding...

Emotions ranging from Anger to Denial flood our minds that we fail to take time to set our anchor and are often swept away by storm.

When I feel that I am going through a storm, I get so caught up in trying to understand what has happened, and I am so overwhelmed by my emotions that i neglect what works for me and what has worked for me before. It seems like I become determined to "fix" the situation and I forget to protect myself mentally, physically, and emotionally. What I have learned is that I can only endure as much as i am prepared to endure. Sure the situation may get fixed... but what about the collateral damage?

Some people react differently from myself. There are those who go through storms and become stagnate. The allow the rain to soak them to the bone and they give in to the high winds, have you ever met someone who doesn't mind being cold and wet? Who would rather talk about how miserable, confused, and discourage they are, than make an effort to get through and move past their troubles? I do. And it is not they enjoy those moments, I believe those moments give them an excuse... An excuse as to why they don't want to be in a committed relationship... why they can't finish school... why they are in debt... excuse why they can not find a job... and excuse why they can't let go of destructive relationships... excuses for days. They may say: See, this is why_______ (fill in the blank), because nothing seems to work out for me and yadda yadda yadda...

The rains and storms of life are inevitable... how we overcome them makes all the difference.

They say, "Those who live in sunshine may have faith, but those of us who walk in the shadows (and storms) MUST have faith."

Think about those life moments when you felt the rain drowning you and the winds pushing you... Can you believe you got through it?!? Shouldn't that be proof enough that you will get through the next storm to come?

Who and/or what was your anchor?

And what about the aftermath... are you not stronger?


Sunshine said...

I can relate to this article down to the T. I have just went throw a break-up and I found every reason not to be happy. It's been 2 weeks and I was devastated at first. My friends say I'm recovering well from a 1 yr relationship. But I find myself talking about how sad am I at times. But this has definitely helped! I thank you. I refuse to be stagnate or to give up. I have faith and I know the lord will not give me anything that I can't handle. Once again this article was appreciated. Thank you!

Certified Diva aka Chivonne said...

I am so glad this article helped. And i want you to knnow that the storm will be happy and with any break up or loss there is a grieving period no matter how long you have been together. So take that time to fully recover from your break up. Stay positive and pray for a renewed spirit and forgiving outlook. I'm rooting for you Sunshine!!

(fŭng'kē) [blak] [chik] said...

I know so many people who need to read this!! I'm about to pass it on...

Anonymous said...

I never comment on blogs. But this blog really touched how many of my friends currently feel. Totally stagnate and allowing themselves to be soaked by misery and confusion.

I attempt to preach the fact that "yes there are problems and yes there is pain, however people possess the agency to get through."

I will pass this message along and I hope this blog reaches the masses during these difficult times so that people may find guidance in your words.


Certified Diva aka Chivonne said...

@Anonymous Continue to be of encouragement to your friend! I'm so glad you tok time to comment on the post. I like to know what type of content my readers can identify with and are happy to share. Its so easy to remain stagnant in situations of pain, confusion and despair but challenge your friend and loved ones to push pass that state and look forward to the gifts tomorrow brings!!!

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